You can read an introduction to the light & shadow series and find links to its other installments >> here! If you aren’t yet familiar with my interpretation of the Bouquet you might want to read up on its meanings before you continue with this article.
The Bouquet at first glance seems to be an extremely positive card. And in many ways it is.
Many of the issues the Bouquet represents are difficult to view as anything else but positive and productive. Conviviality, hospitality, good manners, thankfulness, praise and compliments: without context, these are definitely positive, and within most contexts, they are too – especially if the situation the Bouquet is drawn for is relaxed and honest.
If the person the Bouquet relates to is lonely, the suggestion of going to visit or invite people is a very productive one. If the person has accomplished something, has done something well, the expectation of thankfulness, and praise, is reasonable, and when compliments are given, they are likely honest, and definitely well-deserved.
And if someone else has accomplished something great, or if we find someone else truly lovely, the compliments we pay them are also likely healthy and productive, because they come from our honest admiration, or motivate a capable person to keep using their talents.
The Bouquet can stand for a healthy dose of body grooming, especially in the sense that we look after our appearance with loving attention not just to what makes us pretty in other people’s eyes, but also to what is good and pleasurable for ourselves.
On the other hand, the Bouquet can also represent unproductive, negative, issues and goings-on. For example, if we have not achieved something, if we have not done something well, but still constantly expect to be praised, this is not healthy. Also, if the compliments, the praise the Bouquet can represent, don’t come from an honest place, but are given to benefit the person who pays the compliments, they are dishonest and can potentially lead to very negative results – e.g. we come to believe we’re more capable than we are because of the false praise we receive, and thus take on more than we can handle, or, a person who flatters their boss is given a position of power that they really don’t deserve.
If a situation is already tense, and stiff, the Bouquet’s “good manners” likely don’t hint at courteous socializing, but at disingenuous and/or forced, politeness. If the querent is a person who cannot be alone, has a very hard time being in just their own company, the Bouquet likely is a suggestion that they are trying to bury their discomfort with themselves behind constant socializing – which is not a productive thing to do.
And the Bouquet can hint at a very unhealthy obsession with one’s appearance. It can suggest that a person puts too much stock in their own or other people’s prettiness.